So it’s the end of Day 2 and here’s a quick video…
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Day 1 Of the 30 Day Challenge –
Get Organised
Today I’m beginning the 30 Day Challenge – the mantra of which is “Don’t Take No For An Answer”.
My Coach has challenged me to step up and positively use the next 30 days to effect big change. Refusing to take no for an answer does’t necessarily mean asking for more from others, it’s challenging myself to do more and to push myself to stretch the boundaries and step up.
But you have to start somewhere, so today I’m dealing with the basics – paperwork. This is the foundation of all that follows – because you can’t do great things when your disorganised.
How organised are you? Is it a constant battle to stay on top of all that paperwork? Are you getting frustrated and then feeling bad about yourself because nothing’s getting done?
Today (and yesterday in fact) – I had a blitz of my office. Brain fog and confusion are usually accompanied by piles of paperwork, lost files and a general feeling that I’ve lost control of my desk.
There’s nothing worse than being surrounded by mess.
It may be annoying having to stop and sort things out but in the end it’s the only way. This might seem a tad unorthodox – but I literally gather everything together, dump it on the floor and sift through it all meticulously and either file it, shred it, throw it away, put into new plastic folders of different colours. I then ensure they have a ‘home’ – i.e. a concertina folder so I can get to them easily. AND every time I do this I usually find the one thing that I REALLY need. Funny eh?
For instance, I am currently planning a training course and I found a very important piece of research material that I knew was somewhere, but couldn’t quite lay my hand on it. And sure enough it turned up yesterday (phew!).
The whole point of getting organised is that when you do, it provides a beneficial environment for you to operate at your optimum. Wading through piles of paper every day to find things is not a good way to be.
NOW if you’re the kind of person who HATES tidying up, because you find it boring, stressful or it just makes you want to have a lie down in a dark room – draft in some help. You can hire a VA or a temp for 2 hours a week to do all this for you. Pay your kids to help out. What about turning off your computer, drag yourself away from Facebook and Twitter for half a day and instead, put on the radio and just do it!
How about this…book the time in your Outlook to get organised. Get up extra early and do this before the day starts. I’ve organised my office in my pyjamas before now, then got ready for my day and returned to my desk with a real feeling of calm.
If you’ve not read my book, on page 29 are 23 ways to work more efficiently which I’ve recreated here:-
23 Ways To Work More Efficiently
- Sort and open your post daily: five minutes a day may be easier to find than one hour a week. Separate between action pile’ and ‘naff pile’.
- Deal with any urgent bills or issues straight away, and then file.
- Make a space for all ‘pending’ items – a place on the bureau or a file in the kitchen – and make sure it is checked every day.
- Group meetings or visits to customers/clients together so that you aren’t wasting travelling time.
- Use your Satellite Navigation system. Enter the destination and log the travelling time required so that you can calculate precisely when you need to leave.
- Organise your business cards – buy a big A4 diary and every time you meet someone new, staple the business card in the diary, with a little note next to it. This might seem a bit old fashioned but my friend Brett swears by this one!
- Clearly label files and folders for all your projects, and colour code them if that helps.
- Clear your desk at the end of each day.
- Colour code your meetings in your Outlook Calendar or use a day planner.
- Always prepare bags, documents and directions for the following day, the night before.
- Use a task list. I use an A5 workbook and write down my tasks for the week every Sunday evening. Each day I use a different coloured highlighter pen for those tasks. I cross through each task as it’s completed and usually most things get done. It’s a great feeling! Anything that isn’t completed is carried over to the next list. Curiously there’s never more than 20 items on the list each week, although any more than that I would go into overload. Sometimes the simple strategies work best!
- Divide larger tasks into smaller ones, organise all the paperwork and prioritise – I call this planning to plan.
- If you find it hard to stop when you get going on a project (even to eat), use a timer to bleep when time’s up. Remember if you’re hungry and thirsty, you won’t think straight.
- Organise your domestic arrangements if you work from home, to maximise the most of your time. Don’t be a slave to the ironing, or try to be a domestic goddess by insisting that you do things the same way you always have. Ask yourself, what’s more important for you to be doing right now? Get a cleaner or hire someone to clean your oven for instance, instead of doing it all yourself.
- Think – is this the best use of my time and will it help me reach my objectives? If not, delegate it to someone else if you can afford to.
- Use a ‘save up’ or ‘wish list’ for projects that you can’t start straight away by placing a concertina folder close at hand for your projects and documents so you can find them.
- Schedule your shredding! Organise a shredding basket, and allocate a designated time to shred, or shred daily rather than leaving it all to pile up.
- Tear off the address panel from letters and instead of shredding the whole letter, just shred the address!
- Designate a ‘recycling facility’ in your garage to sort the paper, tin, bottles, cardboard, paper, newspaper and recycle little and often.
- Use only one diary, better still use an electronic diary system on your phone that synchronises with your computer on a daily basis – e.g. a Blackberry.
- If you’re having trouble sleeping, rather than lay there feeling anxious, switch the light on or get out of bed and do some planning, write an article, write some lists, brainstorm. Once you’ve downloaded your thoughts onto paper, you’ll soon fall back to sleep!
- At the beginning of each year, sit down with your spouse and plan your time together, e.g. holidays, family events, and important anniversaries
- Turn your spouse into a VIP – book a date with them on a regular basis and ensure that absolutely nothing else is booked in its place – it could save your relationship
So…I’m getting organised. Are you?
More soon from my progress on The 30 Day Challenge soon
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‘Won’t Take No For An Answer’.
So Day 1:
I will be making a list of all those irritating things that just aren’t happening, i.e. frustrating technology, decisions that haven’t been made, everything that’s interrupting the flow and preventing me from acting courageously and dynamically, (including my own thoughts and beliefs).
Join Us On the Challenge!
Share Your Success and feel free to borrow ideas from us in order to achieve what you’re setting out to in the next 30 days. I’ll be sharing some of my own experiences where I’ve decided not to take not for an answer…and you can too!
Are you brave enough to accept the challenge? Are you going to be like the Lion in the Wizard of Oz who rediscovers his courage on the yellow brick road – or Louisa Lyons the character in my book who has to find the courage within herself to accept herself and deal with her bullying boss?
Or are you going to look back regretfuly when you see your friends and colleagues around you leaping forward, taking giant strides as they break through the fears and challenges that once held them back? So if you’ve got things that are holding you back now’s the time to grasp the nettle and get them sorted. You have 30 days. It only takes a minute to make the decision. Make sure it’s the right one.
So have some fun with this. Decide to make ‘I’m not taking No for an answer’ challenge your focus for the next 30 days.
I’ll be making a conscious effort to pinpoint my thoughts, fears, challenges and successes around this and posting this on the blog and I’d like to invite you to join me – and to have a go and share you thoughts and experiences.
Why? Because when you become aware, truly aware of your patterns of behaviour you can change them. If you are letting those patterns of behaviour hold you back and allowing them to run your life instead of you running it, then you become a victim of circumstances destined forever to let excuses run your life. They say it takes 30 days to create a new habit or pattern and I believe that life changes when you change.
So if you want more clients, more me time, more fun, more sales, more productivity, more leisure time, more EVERYTHING then let’s face our fears head on and do it together. Let’s make it happen!
Post your progress here or come onto the Facebook Fan Club or Allison’s Blog and share your experiences.
Warmest Regards
Wendy
Tell Your Friends and Get Them To Take The Challenge As Well!
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Have you ever faced a situation which required you to dig deep to find the courage, stamina and self belief in order to take on a new challenge, overcome a massive disappointment or grasp the biggest opportunity you’ve ever been given in your life?
If you had an aura of absolute certainty and conviction around you, what would that do for you? Would it be useful to feel as steady as a rock, no matter what setbacks you faced?
I watched Jonathan Ross interview Barbara Streisand last year. He asked her about the downside of being famous and how difficult it must be to get out and lead a normal life. She said that it was always a problem which she couldn’t ever really find an answer to.
However, that there was one occasion where she wanted to go shopping, but was worried about the unwanted attention of fans. But she went out with a friend, and for half an hour she pretended that she was just plain ‘Barbara’who’d never done anything remarkable in her life and couldn’t even sing.
She was able to carry this on for about half an hour; AND NOBODY NOTICED HER. Until she switched back to superstar Barbara and all of a sudden people started to point and look and notice her.
So when we’re talking about self belief, could it be as simple as changing your thoughts? Is it as simple as that??
Marilyn Monroe used the same trick when she went out walking. If she didn’t want anyone to notice her, she’d revert back to Norma Jean Baker; but the minute she became Marilyn that changed and she’d have people swarming around her.
What thoughts do you regularly hold in your mind about WHO you are? Stop for a minute. Please.
What have you been thinking about today. What have you been saying to yourself? Who do YOU imagine you are when you walk into a room? What posture do you adopt – are you thinking and feeling like the head of your organisation, even if it is just you running your business from your spare bedroom? Do you treat yourself like a professional, an expert. Or are you thinking that you’re not good enough, and that everyone else must be much more successful or accomplished than you? Do you put yourself down and constantly compare yourself to others in a scratched record kind of way? Or are your thoughts filled with fretting about last month’s sales figures or that disappointing meeting you’ve just had?
What if you decided today that you were going to BE who you wanted to BECOME, and chose to be that person from now on. We all have dreams of our ultimate lifestyle, but change starts from within the quality of your thoughts on a daily basis. OK if you’re a little skeptical about this, just humour me and be that person just for today.
Just for today try that notion on for size and see what changes. Because I know that when you do – people will pick this up at such a quantum level and like a ripple effect, your energy will spread through the room and the dynamics of your conversations change.
AND if you made a decision to reprogramme your thoughts, do you really need other people to keep telling you how amazing you are – when you already know? On an energetic level just reflect on how much stronger your ego will be, and how the energy of your ego will be expanding and connecting with other postive energies and drawing them to you – leading to new connections, meetings, opportunities and new ideas which will all serve to grow your business in an entirely new and exciting way.
So, just for today. Do it as an experiment. Let me know what happens.
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Lt Corporal Matthew Croucher was a guest speaker at a recent Charity Ball, organised by the Essex Business Network to raise funds for Help for Heroes.
I just happened to have my Flip camera handy and managed to capture the end of his speech and the spontaneous, warm response from those present…a picture really does paint a thousand words!
Matthew from the Royal Marines Reserves, was awarded the George Medal for Bravery by the Queen in 2008. He won the George Cross for diving on to a live grenade to save his comrades has actually cheated death SIX TIMES during bloody and brutal tours of Iraq and Afghanistan – a story re-told in his book: ‘BULLET PROOF: One Marine’s Ferocious Account of Close Combat Behind Enemy Lines’.
Also at the event was Corporal Clare Waters from 256 Field Hospital, London. Clare is a Nurse and has already experienced one tour of duty to Afghanistan; she is keen to be deployed again to play a key role in helping the wounded.

Picture: Corporal Clare Waters with Steve Parker founder of The Essex Business Network who organised the Charity Ball for Help For Heroes
Our thoughts go to all serving soldiers and personnel currently deployed on active service in Afghanistan, their families and those currently receiving treatment for their injuries.
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Help for Heroes is an organisation formed to help those who have been wounded in Britain’s current conflicts. www.helpforheroes.org.uk
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I saw a very interesting video from Thomas Power this morning about The Bank Of Facebook. He pointed out that the number of people on Facebook is so huge, that it has the potential to start it’s own bank through peer to peer lending. A tremendous concept I think. I think it is important for us to take notice, because I feel that we are on the brink of change of a significant kind. And here’s why…
I had, and still do have, a crazy notion about the banking industry. I predicted that it would begin to go into decline, and eventually die and the enormous offices they once occupied will end up becoming museums – much like the cloth mills of the 19th Century. Yeah, crazy idea eh? Never happen…?
I considered the whole concept of change in the banking industry, an article I posted on Ecademy in February 2007 “Could This Be The End Of Office Politics” .
One of the characters in my book – the Tin Man “Tom Tindall-Heart” is really struggling with change. He works in The City Of London and doesn’t even know what Facebook is! He still relies on his Filofax and has no concept of Social Media. He is so far into his comfort zone that he doesn’t know how he’s going to climb out. But he knows that if he doesn’t confront this – he will be left behind.
Now, the Bank of Facebook, is a clear signal that change is already starting to happen and that far from remaining the ‘Fat Cats’ of the business world, the banking institutions as we know it (The Tin Men) could soon be under threat – because ordinary people (as I explained in my article) led by a more enlightened souls, will rise up, join forces and start doing their own thing – much like they did in the Peasant’s revolt.
So, everyone. What do YOU think? Is BIG change coming? Will Facebook and its kind really become that powerful that the engine that has driven our economies (i.e. capitalism/finance industry to use a broad term), will come to an end; to be replaced by something entirely new, based on different values, and a completey different model of how money flows?
Now I’m not an economist but it makes a lot of sense to me. We are in the midst of one of the most significant revolutions for over 100 years. No blood has been spilled, but what with the growing disenchantment with our governments and politics in general, the rise of the internet and the power it has given ordinary people – I’d wager that even more significant changes are on the way. Share your thoughts here.
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As Andrew Lloyd Webber begins his search for Dorothy in his new production of The Wizard of Oz, I’m featuring a series of blogs which explore the key challenges faced by the principle characters in this story.
I begin with the Lion’s search for COURAGE and why this could desert us in times of trouble.
Let’s take Louisa Lyons – the contemporary character who appears in my book. She’s being bulled by her boss, but feels powerless to do anything about this. Despite being a fearless sportswoman in her spare time – she’s a completely sissy at work and lets her boss walk all over her.
But what is courage and where do you find it when you need it, when you’re under fire…?
For instance what do you need to carry on when you’ve been made redundant, after a relationship breakdown or death, trying something you’ve never tried before, launching a new concept or idea, dealing with difficult or aggressive people, overcoming and handling debt?
I’ve come up with 9 ideas…if you have another to add, I’d like to hear from you
Courage is…
- Quiet dignity. Its remaining calm and poised, when all around you are running around like headless chickens
- Acting decisively. Sometimes the only way to solve a persistent problem is to refuse to tolerate any situation that compromises your values. But this will require the courage to stand up for what you believe in, which may require you to stick your head above the parapet to court controversy. But isn’t it more exciting to be known for being a bit daring…rather than a sheep?
- Taking responsibility for your own actions, and resisting the temptation to take the easy way out. Pointing the finger or blaming external circumstances for your own misfortune only wastes time doesn’t it – time you could be spending on solving the problem.
- Accepting and adapting to change. Sometimes it can be hard to accept that if something isn’t working you may need to consider changing directions, letting go and starting again
- Standing up for yourself. Why run with the pack or allow others to make decisions on your behalf? I’ve learnt that to my cost. If you accept that your job is to work at becoming better at being YOU, nobody can do that job better than you can.
- Acceptance. To achieve our objectives may mean leaving behind people who don’t validate, support or encourage you. If others don’t believe in you or are working on their own agenda to compensate for their own shortcomings, does that really serve you?
- Moving out of your comfort zone and trying something new, sometimes without really knowing or having the comfort or certainty in the outcome.
- Pressing on despite fear, pain, disappointment and loss. Because in the end, quitting isn’t always the best solution. As they say, pain is temporary – quitting lasts forever…
- Listening to your inner voice (no matter how quiet that may be), paying attention to it, trusting it and having the guts to go with your gut
- Fill in the blank…what do you think courage is…?
I welcome your comments and observations
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Those of you who know me well know that “Discover Yourself On the Yellow Brick Road”, a book that took me two years to write.
But what you probably don’t realise is that in fact, it didn’t start out to be a book at all. It started out as a marketing exercise. I went on a course to learn how to create products so that my clients could sample my work and get to know me through my materials. Writing is an opportunity for me to share my knowledge instead of keeping it all in my head.
I’ve spent the best part of 15 years reading and learning about self development. One day I woke up one morning and thought “look Wendy, stop reading other people’s material and start writing your own!”. But since I’ve published my book loads of people have been asking me “how did you do that!?” So I thought I’d share a few of my secrets with you, so that you can get going on your own materials and in so doing promote your own expertise – therefore raising your profile and crediblity in your own field.
So, if you’re struggling to get started here’s a few tips
- If you are writing something with a specific target audience in mind. Mindmap the sort of challenges that your clients are facing. Don’t censor your thoughts, just get a big piece of paper, coloured pens and download your ideas from your brain. When you think you’ve finished, keep going because sometimes the longer you do this the better the ideas become.
- If you’re still not clear then carry out a survey and use the responses to add to your mindmap and complete the content
- Once you’ve got your mindmap take every key word out and put that into a list
- Look at this list and see if there are any words that could be put into common groups, or themes
- From these thems will come your headings – for instance you could have something that says “The 7 Biggest Challenges that Pig Farmers Face”
- Then go ahead and write everything that comes into your mind under these 7 headings – don’t aim for perfection, just write, write, write. One tip is to type this on your computer – but turn off the monitor so that you’re not tempted to edit or change anything. You can edit it all later
- Prepare a 20 page e-book. Feel free to ‘borrow’ the formatting from my e-book you downloaded from my website. However, before you publish it make sure you get some feedback from a respected person who will tell you straight what could be improved.
- If you’re stuck or have writers block – then here’s a fantastic book which tackles this very problem. ‘Blocks’ has been written by Tom Evans who specialises in helping people unleash their book and get it published. http://publishingacademy.com/buy/guidebooks/blocks/
So, what are you waiting for? Good luck and let me know how it’s going
Warmest regards
Wendy
p.s. Got any comments on this – I’d love to hear them!
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