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Wendy Dashwood Quick

Wouldn’t you agree that one of the most challenging aspects of running a business is really stretching the boundaries, thinking a lot bigger and asking for what you really want and DESERVE.  Sometimes you really have to dig deep to find the resources and the self belief within yourself to think ambitiously and courageously enough to plan audaciously.
  
So today my Coach Allison Marlowe and I agreed on a 30 Day Challenge.  What’s the challenge…?
 
We’ve agreed that it’s time things changed.  From now on we…
  

‘Won’t Take No For An Answer’.

 
Allison and I have decided to really go for it with this challenge, PLUS we’ve decided to widen the remit, after all if we’re going to face up to something that challenges us  then what other fears do we need to break through? What other areas of our lives and/or business could we apply the ‘I’m not taking no for an answer’ mantra to? I realised there were quite a few.

So Day 1:

I will be making a list of all those irritating things that just aren’t happening, i.e.  frustrating technology, decisions that haven’t been made, everything that’s interrupting the flow and preventing me from acting courageously and dynamically,  (including my own thoughts and beliefs).

Join Us On the Challenge! 

Share Your Success and feel free to borrow ideas from us in order to achieve what you’re setting out to in the next 30 days.  I’ll be sharing some of my own experiences where I’ve decided not to take not for an answer…and you can too! 

Are you brave enough to accept the challenge? Are you going to be like the Lion in the Wizard of Oz who rediscovers his courage on the yellow brick road – or Louisa Lyons the character in my book who has to find the courage within herself to accept herself and deal with her bullying boss?

Or are you going to look back regretfuly when you see your friends and colleagues around you leaping forward, taking giant strides as they break through the fears and challenges that once held them back?  So if you’ve got things that are holding you back now’s the time to grasp the nettle and get them sorted.  You have 30 days. It only takes a minute to make the decision.  Make sure it’s the right one. 

So have some fun with this.  Decide to make ‘I’m not taking No for an answer’ challenge your focus for the next 30 days.

I’ll be making a conscious effort to pinpoint my thoughts, fears, challenges and successes around this and posting this on the blog and I’d like to invite you to join me – and to have a go and share you thoughts and experiences.

Why? Because when you become aware, truly aware of your patterns of behaviour you can change them. If you are letting those patterns of behaviour hold you back and allowing them to run your life instead of you running it, then you become a victim of circumstances destined forever to let excuses run your life. They say it takes 30 days to create a new habit or pattern and I believe that life changes when you change.

So if you want more clients, more me time, more fun, more sales, more productivity, more leisure time, more EVERYTHING then let’s face our fears head on and do it together. Let’s make it happen!

Post your progress here or come onto the Facebook Fan Club or Allison’s Blog and share your experiences. 

Warmest Regards

Wendy

Tell Your Friends and Get Them To Take The Challenge As Well!

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Have you ever faced a situation which required you to dig deep to find the courage, stamina and self belief in order to take on a new challenge, overcome a massive disappointment or grasp the biggest opportunity you’ve ever been given in your life?

If you had an aura of absolute certainty and conviction around you, what would that do for you?  Would it be useful to feel as steady as a rock, no matter what setbacks you faced?

I watched Jonathan Ross interview Barbara Streisand last year.  He asked her about the downside of being famous and how difficult it must be to get out and lead a normal life.  She said that it was always a problem which she couldn’t ever really find an answer to.

However, that there was one occasion where she wanted to go shopping, but was worried about the unwanted attention of fans.  But she went out with a friend, and for half an hour she pretended that she was just plain ‘Barbara’who’d never done anything remarkable in her life and couldn’t even sing.

She was able to carry this on for about half an hour; AND NOBODY NOTICED HER.  Until she switched back to superstar Barbara and all of a sudden people started to point and look and notice her. 

So when we’re talking about self belief, could it be as simple as changing your thoughts?  Is it as simple as that?? 

Marilyn Monroe used the same trick when she went out walking.  If she didn’t want anyone to notice her, she’d revert back to Norma Jean Baker; but the minute she became Marilyn that changed and she’d have people swarming around her.

What thoughts do you regularly hold in your mind about WHO you are?  Stop for a minute. Please.

What have you been thinking about today.  What have you been saying to yourself?  Who do YOU imagine you are when you walk into a room?  What posture do you adopt – are you thinking and feeling like the head of your organisation, even if it is just you running your business from your spare bedroom?  Do you treat yourself like a professional, an expert.  Or are you thinking that you’re not good enough, and that everyone else must be much more successful or accomplished than you?  Do you put yourself down and constantly compare yourself to others in a scratched record kind of way?  Or are your thoughts filled with fretting about last month’s sales figures or that disappointing meeting you’ve just had?

What if you decided today that you were going to BE who you wanted to BECOME, and chose to be that person from now on.  We all have dreams of our ultimate lifestyle, but change starts from within the quality of your thoughts on a daily basis.  OK if you’re a little skeptical about this, just humour me and be that person just for today.

Just for today try that notion on for size and see what changes.  Because I know that when you do – people will pick this up at such a quantum level and like a ripple effect, your energy will spread through the room and the dynamics of your conversations change. 

AND if you made a decision to reprogramme your thoughts, do you really need other people to keep telling you how amazing you are – when you already know?  On an energetic level just reflect on how much stronger your ego will be, and how the energy of your ego will be expanding and connecting with other postive energies and drawing them to you – leading to new connections, meetings, opportunities and new ideas which will all serve to grow your business in an entirely new and exciting way. 

So, just for today.  Do it as an experiment.  Let me know what happens.

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Lt Corporal Matthew Croucher was a guest speaker at a recent Charity Ball, organised by the Essex Business Network to raise funds for Help for Heroes.

I just happened to have my Flip camera handy and managed to capture the end of his speech and the spontaneous, warm response from those present…a picture really does paint a thousand words!

Matthew from the Royal Marines Reserves, was awarded the George Medal for Bravery by the Queen in 2008.   He won the George Cross for diving on to a live grenade to save his comrades has actually cheated death SIX TIMES during bloody and brutal tours of Iraq and Afghanistan – a story re-told in his book:  ‘BULLET PROOF: One Marine’s Ferocious Account of Close Combat Behind Enemy Lines’.

Also at the event was Corporal Clare Waters from 256 Field Hospital, London.  Clare is a Nurse and has already experienced one tour of duty to Afghanistan; she is keen to be deployed again to play a key role in helping the wounded.

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Picture:  Corporal Clare Waters with Steve Parker founder of The Essex Business Network who organised the Charity Ball for Help For Heroes

Our thoughts go to all serving soldiers and personnel currently deployed on active service in Afghanistan, their families and those currently receiving treatment for their injuries.

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Help for Heroes is an organisation formed to help those who have been wounded in Britain’s current conflicts. www.helpforheroes.org.uk

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As Andrew Lloyd Webber begins his search for Dorothy in his new production of The Wizard of Oz, I’m featuring a series of blogs which explore the key challenges faced by the principle characters in this story.

I begin with the Lion’s search for COURAGE and why this could desert us in times of trouble. 

Let’s take Louisa Lyons – the contemporary character who appears in my book.  She’s being bulled by her boss, but feels powerless to do anything about this.  Despite being a fearless sportswoman in her spare time – she’s a completely sissy at work and lets her boss walk all over her.

But what is courage and where do you find it when you need it, when you’re under fire…?

For instance what do you need to carry on when you’ve been made redundant, after a relationship  breakdown or death, trying something you’ve never tried before, launching a new concept or idea, dealing with difficult or aggressive people, overcoming and handling debt?

I’ve come up with 9 ideas…if you have another to add, I’d like to hear from you

Courage is…

  1. Quiet dignity.  Its remaining calm and poised, when all around you are running around like headless chickens
  2. Acting decisively.  Sometimes the only way to solve a persistent problem is to refuse to tolerate any situation that compromises your values.  But this will require the courage to stand up for what you believe in, which may require you to stick your head above the parapet to court controversy.  But isn’t it more exciting to be known for being a bit daring…rather than a sheep?
  3. Taking responsibility for your own actions, and resisting the temptation to take the easy way out.  Pointing the finger or blaming external circumstances for your own  misfortune only wastes time doesn’t it – time you could be spending on solving the problem.
  4. Accepting and adapting to change.  Sometimes it can be hard to accept that if something isn’t working you may need to consider changing directions, letting go and starting again
  5. Standing up for yourself.  Why run with the pack or allow others to make decisions on your behalf?  I’ve learnt that to my cost.  If you accept that your job is to work at becoming better at being YOU, nobody can do that job better than you can. 
  6. Acceptance.  To achieve our objectives may mean leaving behind people who don’t validate, support or encourage you.  If others don’t believe in you or are working on their own agenda to compensate for their own shortcomings, does that really serve you?
  7. Moving out of your comfort zone and trying something new, sometimes without really knowing or having the comfort or certainty in the outcome. 
  8. Pressing on despite fear, pain, disappointment and loss.  Because in the end, quitting isn’t always the best solution.  As they say, pain is temporary – quitting lasts forever…
  9. Listening to your inner voice (no matter how quiet that may be), paying attention to it, trusting it and having the guts to go with your gut
  10. Fill in the blank…what do you think courage is…?

I welcome your comments and observations

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